Imagine my surprise when I opened JO magazine and found an article about pornography written by a colleague/friend! I was even further surprised that she had some fairly positive things to say about the use of porn in marriage. I wrote this up fairly quickly, then emailed it to her asking her opinion, and if she would mind if I sent it to JO. She was open to that, and very professional in her response; and my fears of losing the friendship over it were unwarranted. She later told me that a woman she had interviewed for her piece read the letter and her thoughts on the subject were influenced.
This, plus a VIVA reject of a piece I wanted to write, was the impetus to start submitting articles to JO. So far JO hasn’t printed anything I’ve written, but I am in the middle of one they have OK’d and starting another. It makes me glad I decided to speak my mind!
Wendy!
This was a very well written rebuttle to the approval of Porn. I so hope that women will read this and re-think this whole issue. I could give you example after example of folks who thought it was Ok and not a big deal and now their lives are ruined. It cost them everything. Their marriages, their children, their jobs, homes and dignity. Many of these people no longer attend church due to their shame guilt and the hurt they have caused to others.
I’m pleased to have read your article and hope this type of information will get the same coverage as the former. May all who come by here read it and be warned. The stakes are high and the risk too great for something so temporary and unnecessary. Pornography doesn’t solve the real issues and problems in intimacy, it is merely a distraction from the true problems that are undermining the relationship.
Bethany
Comment by Bethany — February 6, 2007 @ 4:03 pm
Welome back and thank you, Bethany! Yes, is is a growing problem, and growing even more among women. Pirated DVDs of porn are available everywhere in Jordan for less than $1, and are sold to kids.
Comment by wendywrites — February 6, 2007 @ 5:13 pm
An excellent summary of the havoc this addiction (and even a dabbling in it) can wreak. I long for more overt discussion of this in the church. And yes, among both men and women. This isn’t just for men! A ministry whose sole purpose is to address this issue with truth and compassion is the XXXChurch. They pull no punches. Thanks, Wendy. May God pour His blessing out on the words you’ve written.
Comment by Deb — March 1, 2007 @ 4:25 pm
Hi Deb!! Thanks for your visit and encouraging words! REAL words…I know what you mean as I was there. I’ve read about that ministry, talk about getting in the trenches. I’ll be lifting you and Mark up today.
Comment by wendywrites — March 1, 2007 @ 5:24 pm
oh, THIS wendy! i had no idea it was you who greeted me on my blog several days ago. somehow i got connected to your site today. i’ll definitely be back. you seem to have found your writing style, or focus, or purpose for it. mine’s all over the place, though perhaps i’ve settled down some. see ya!
Comment by mark — March 2, 2007 @ 3:19 am
Mark, welcome!! whhoops, pulled a blonde…not too many Wendys in our neck of the woods! Hey, random style is great too…I was redeemed as a random writer when one of my friends (who is a special ed teacher)diagnosed me as dyslexic! I enjoy your writing and randomness makes it all the more fun and unpredictable. I am going to try to make this blog more interesting, post more often. Blessings!
Comment by wendywrites — March 3, 2007 @ 5:46 am
Hi, Wendy! It’s been a bit since I’ve been here, I’ve missed checking in. Thank you for your postings. I have found them very insightful. It is so true how many people accept pornography. I hear of kids having a video playing in the background at parties and them accepting it as normal. It’s so sad (and dangerous) how far we’ve come in desensitizing the public and accepting things that are not normal as “normal”. Thank you for making a difference.
Comment by alethea — March 22, 2007 @ 9:11 pm
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Comment by Mexxyi — April 18, 2007 @ 11:19 pm
This is so well articulated, Wendy, and raises points which need to be pondered. No one can really compete with the perfection in skin magazines.
Thanks for writing this thoughtful rebuttal.
Comment by Beauty — April 22, 2008 @ 6:37 pm
Beauty, thanks for visiting so quickly, and for your encouraging words. I really look forward to spending some time reading the links on your post, as I don’t have many resources here to learn from. I didn’t even know it was Abuse Awareness month, everyone was writing about Autism!
Comment by wendywrites — April 22, 2008 @ 7:23 pm